Dear Abby: My hairstylist gave me pushback when I said I wanted a new style ... I think we’re done

DEAR ABBY: I have been seeing a hairstylist for a decade. During the last couple of years, I don’t feel I’ve gotten the service I deserve. I go in for a trim about every two months (sometimes longer to save money). She is extremely busy and sometimes delegates “green” hairstylists to wash and blow-dry my hair.

I appreciate that she gives new hairstylists a chance to get experience, but last time two different people worked on my hair in addition to her, and it took an hour and a half for a simple trim. On top of that, she charged me an extra $10. I like to tip everyone properly (a little something for the associates, with 20% going to her). Sometimes, she’s a little late for appointments. The last time I asked for a different hairstyle, she gave pushback because “I wouldn’t take care of it.”

I’m ready to move on to someone new and a new hairstyle. What is the proper way to break up with your hairstylist? I would like to do it in person, but it could be awkward, and she could get angry. Should I give an extra tip? -- HAIRY SITUATION IN CALIFORNIA

DEAR HAIRY SITUATION: You are not this stylist’s friend; you are her client. You have every right to change stylists, and you shouldn’t feel guilty for doing so. If you feel you must give her a reason, tell her the truth on the phone or in person. You are within your rights to make a change if you wish. It shouldn’t create ill feelings, and you don’t have to give her a farewell tip.

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