DEAR ABBY: Some of my friends discuss their plans in front of me without inviting me along. Am I right to feel excluded? I’m a woman in my late 20s, and I feel stung when friends and roommates make plans to hang out without me while I’m standing there. One close friend often reminisces to me about girls' nights and outings with our mutual friends. It hurts, and it has made me feel like I’m not part of the group.
When I told them how this made me feel, they assured me we were indeed friends and said I was being “too sensitive.” I value these friends. Because they are roommates, I can’t avoid them. For the most part, they’re kind and conscientious. Should I bring up my hurt feelings again or drop the issue and withdraw? -- ODD GIRL OUT
DEAR GIRL: You may be “too sensitive,” but your roommates clearly aren’t sensitive enough. It is rude to do what they have been doing. If I thought mentioning your hurt feelings would help the situation, I’d advise you to do that, as well. A better course of action would be to drop the issue and concentrate on making NEW friends.
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