Dear Abby: We’re afraid of our friend’s husband, who brings a handgun to lunch

Dear Abby

Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips.

COUPLE ARE AFRAID OF WOMAN’S ARMED HUSBAND

DEAR ABBY: My girlfriend, whom I have known for many years, remarried her ex-husband a few years ago. I didn’t know her when she was married to him the first time.

My husband and I don’t like him. The last time we met for lunch, her husband showed my husband a gun he was carrying in his pocket! Abby, he’s an elderly man with a tremor in his hands. She keeps emailing me about the four of us meeting again, and we are both scared to meet them since he’s armed and has that tremor. We are afraid it could accidentally go off and shoot one of us. I don’t know what to tell her. Any advice? -- FRIGHTENED IN TEXAS

DEAR FRIGHTENED: Keep in mind that carrying a gun is legal in Texas. Also, many guns have safety devices so they don’t fire accidentally. There is a difference between not liking someone and being afraid of socializing with an armed person. You don’t have to sacrifice your long friendship with this woman. If you don’t want to see them as a couple, get together with her separately.

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